Our Little Addition

Meet little C. Our little treasure. This is our adoption story (Part 1)...

About a month before C was born we had got our other three kids to bed very late (It was Super Bowl Sunday). And we had just turned on a show to cuddle and wind down to ourselves. It was about ten thirty/eleven o'clock at night. We heard a knock on the door. Nothing is more nerving than a knock on the door that late at night. I called through the door asking who it was. I opened once I knew the person. It was C's mom. She came to us to tell us she needed us to take C. At that time she was still pregnant with C. She said that she was to overwhelmed as a single mom of two other children among other reasons. She needed help. We all cried a little as we listened and talked and after an hour she left. My husband and I laid in bed and wondered if this was just a down moment for this special mom or if she really wanted us to adopt her baby. A few days later she called me and told me she had a lawyer secured for us to use.

Over the next few weeks it was background checks, lawyer visits, ups and downs... it was very stressful. There was always that chance she could change her mind. Adoption isn't official until 24 hours after the baby is born, so we were very reserved about counting on this blessing until after it was official. We bought things, but left them boxed. I set up the crib, put the sheets on it and we were totally ready, but NOTHING could ever really prepare you for what we experienced.

The day that C was born I was in the hospital right there with C's mom while she was in labor and delivery. The nurses would ask me about his after birth care. C's mom looked at me and smiled big through the whole thing (until about hour fifteen of labor). She asked me what name we had chose. I was pleased and overly joyous to find out how happy she was with our decision. We also chose to give him the middle name that his mom chose for him, so he'd always have that from her.

After TWENTY-ONE LooooooooNG hours of labor C was born. He was so perfect! So beautiful. I loved him at first sight. But I watched his mom hurt. She loved him too. VERY MUCH! I didn't hold him at all that first morning in labor and delivery. I felt like an intruder actually. Like I needed to not be there at that moment. So I loved him, I kissed him and I loved his mom. I hugged her and I left the hospital not knowing what the next twenty-four hours would bring.

My husband was so eager to meet C. He tried staying at the hospital while C's mom was in labor, but after 18 hours he had to throw in the towel. Trying to sleep in the cramped space of vehicle was impossible. So he left. I got home just in time to get my older kids off to school after showing them a picture of baby C. My oldest son's reaction was my favorite. He looked at him and said so sincerely, "That's a beautiful baby." And C is a very gorgeous baby. We got them off and I laid on the couch. It had been well over thirty hours of being awake at this point. My husband and son (not school age yet) looked at me laying on the couch. They wanted to go back up to the hospital. So I toughed through the tired and took them up to meet baby C. It was love at first sight for everyone in his presence. You just knew how special this baby was right away. He had the best demeanor ever! So mild and content. His mom held him all day and all night loving him, crying over him, enjoying every minute with him. It was very beautiful.

C's mom asked us to be there the following day when the lawyer would send someone over for her to sign over her rights to us. She called us that night sad about everything and the next morning wasn't any easier. We went to the hospital and we hung out with C and his birth mom and her mom for an hour before the lawyers arrived. We were asked to leave the room as it was a conflict of interest for us to be in the room at the time. And I didn't want to be. We sat in the hallway. We listened as it was evident how much pain she was in signing those papers. I can honestly say with all my heart that it was difficult to find much happiness at that moment knowing how much pain she was in. How hard it was to hold someone she loves so much, but to know that she needed to give him up and give him more, her girls more and herself more. She knew this was the right decision and for me... I know that these special spirits are brought into our homes sometimes not in the traditional way, and this was the way that C was brought to our family. Through this amazing woman who gave him to us.

I can't tell you all the details obviously over the world wide web, but this is my story. I hope that anyone out there who adopts irregardless of the mothers situation looks at that mother and holds her on a pedestal! Because she is an amazing woman--- whoever she is. Our birth mom gave up a baby she loved. I am sure that most moms who choose to give up there baby for adoption love those baby's. I am certain it is the hardest decision they will ever make in there life, but when it is the right decision and they act on that knowledge that it is the right decision they become AMAZING WOMEN!!! We love baby C's birth mom so much for choosing us to care for him. I know most people who adopt choose to adopt, but it an amazing feeling to be chosen---LOL.

I know that C was meant for our family. I am so happy and thankful he is in our family. And I love baby C's birth parents and I am grateful they are both in his life and that he will be lucky enough to know both his birth mom and his birth dad as he grows up. Both birth grandparents will be in his life and he is going to be so blessed for it. There are so many people that love him.We love him.

I hope you don't mind my sharing his story with you. I think Adoption is an amazing thing!!! I wish I could get into the spiritual aspect of this story and not worry about what anyone would say. For those who are religious I will just say that the Spirit was involved so much in this whole process that I know this is how it is supposed to be. For those who aren't religious I guess I'd say the same thing. LOL. Adoption is a great thing!

28 comments:

  1. What a beautiful story! Congrats!

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  2. Congratulations! What a beautiful story of sacrifice and most of all, love. Thank you for sharing your story. :)

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  3. Thanks for sharing such a sweet story! Congrats on the new baby, i had no idea you were looking into adopting, i'm so out of the loop but so excited for you. He's delicious. Hugs!

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  4. Congratulations! He is beautiful! I can only imagine the difficulty that the birth mom was having. What a strong, brave women to do that for her baby!

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  5. So exciting. We are very open to adoption, but we are not pursuing it right now (we have 4 under five). I'd love to have someone actually approach us to adopt their baby someday.

    Enjoy your newest little blessing!

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  6. Congratulations. Beautiful story and beautiful baby boy.

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  7. Congratulations! What an amazing gift that she gave you and for her to choose you speaks volumes!!
    This is your blog and it's a shame you should have to feel nervous about posting about the spirtual piece of the adoption. It's obvious God chose you for C and vice versa. I would love to hear how much He was involved - those things touch me to the core!!
    God bless you and your precious new son!!!

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  8. So glad you decided to share about the cute little guy. You guys are truly amazing and I'm so glad she chose you guys. Couldn't ask for a better home to have her little guy raised in. *Hugs*

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  9. Congratulations!!! What a sweet sweet son. Hugs and tears with his birth mom too.

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  10. Beautiful story. I am adopted, and like your little C, my birth mom picked my middle name. I cherish it, and I'm considering (when I get married and have kids) passing on my middle name to them.

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  11. Such an amazing story of love, compassion, trust, faith and honor! I am literally crying my eyes out. Congratulations to you guys. Thanks so much for sharing your story! On another note...I am religious and just reading this gave me the feeling the spirit was and will always be involved in this story.

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  12. Congratulations! What an amazing story! Thanks for sharing. :)

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  13. what a beautiful story, you should share it with DesignMom, they have a series.
    Congratulations.

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  14. What a neat story, Jenn. I'm so happy for you, for the baby, and for the birth mom. Sounds like things turned out exactly how they were meant to be.

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  15. That is amazing Jenn! Congrats on your little one! And I don't think anything like that could happen without the Spirit! So beautiful!

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  16. Adoption is amazing!! We have four amazing children through adoption, a boy and 3 biological sisters. Each one was/is an incredibly special experience. We always talk about how lucky they are to have so many people who love them...not everyone gets to have so many mom's and dad's, etc. who love them. Congratulations!!

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  17. Oh p.s. I was raised with all 5 brothers, no sisters and was a bit of a tomboy myself; your site has taught me so much on how to help my very princessy girls have great hair! Thanks!!

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  18. What a wonderful story. Adoption is a wonderful thing....such a blessing to everyone involved. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  19. what a story!! it made me teary eyed. i hope someone would knock on my door to and ask me to adopt their baby. I've been wanting to have another baby. my one & only daughter is turning 10 already. so i wanted another baby and would like it to be a boy. So Happy for you Jenn!!!
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    Mae(FB); Mimay(PrettyHairstylesForGirls)

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  20. A beautiful and amazing story! My brother was adopted and it actually took 6 months (way back then) for it to be final. An amazing story! What a sweet little addition to your amazing family!!!!!! (((HUGS)))

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  21. After reading the first three or four paragraphs, I am convinced that the Lord has sent you a wonderful gift; one that you will cherish with all of your heart forever. Also, I want to congratulate you guys on this, and wish you many happy years with C.

    timlovell366@gmail.com

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  22. Thanks for sharing :) Blessings to you all!

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  23. Thank you for sharing your story. Spiritual? Absolutely YES! We were completely blessed and adopted our little princess three years ago But just two months ago we had a nine month old foster baby that we gave back to his mom and dad. We felt a little bit like biological parents placing our child for adoption! As if we experienced both sides. Emotional roller coaster but definitely worth it. Congratulations on little C. He is adorable!

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  24. Congratulations on your newest addition! I just finalized my adoption with my little girl last month (She's 5). I've been doing foster care as a single mom for about 4 years now and has been such a blessing to keep my sweet little girl! (I was adopted through foster care as well) You will do amazing and what a difference you will make in his life!

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  25. Wow, what an amazing story. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your touching story. Baby C is beautiful.

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  26. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am a new follower of your blog and have loved every detail of it. There was however one thing that "bugged" me. You should never hide your faith no matter if you are going to offend someone. God said to go and make disciples. You never know if your story is going to show an non-believer what God's love truly looks like. I for one see a very special family here that loves the Lord and I hope other people see it as well! :) Have a blessed weekend with baby C and I look forward to more posts.

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  27. What a great story! Congratulations... I can't even imagine what you all went through including birth mom. Gorgeous pictures!

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  28. My sister just emailed me a link to your blog... I loved your story and feel like I can live it. We just got a call last week for a birth mom who will be viewing our adoption portfolio tomorrow and I am a mess hoping and wishing that we will be chosen. She is due in 3 weeks... Your story encourages me much and thank you for sharing about the spirit because I know he is helping me now:)

    Naomi

    Ababysentfromthestars.blogspot.com

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