Fixing things...

**UPDATE**

Devri and I are okay. We are working things out. And I have deleted the old posts. I am leaving this one up (as long as this one is okay--- Devri...?) Because this has been a humbling experience for me. And I know that there has been a not so pleasant feeling among the hair bloggers for a while and I hope that everyone reads this and we all just start being nice to each other and just having a good time. And NOT thinking what a person says is a personal attack. Both Devri and I did that to each other. A double wammy! But I wanted to update that she has contacted blogger about finding her old blog. I don't know how that works, but hopefully they find it. If not I think she will start up a new one after a break. Devri-- thank you for working things out with me.


Hair blogging went personal today… And personally I thought it sucked. My email box has been bombarded and out of control all day. I have had comments left on my Facebook about this blog since I locked my comments up. I got yelled at by my husband about how stupid it was for me to quit something I love. And it wasn’t that joking what a dorky hobby yelling I usually get from him. He gave some good points and was really (sincerely) upset that I would let myself be effected by one person like this.


And I got an email among all the ones that said how much I was loved it was the one I needed to hear. I am not saying who it is from but it read:


I have been reading your blog from an outside look. WOW! It takes all kinds in the world to have drama and whoa Drama is at its fullest Fury! Step back and look at this situation and tell me if you like yourself in the morning. Act like a woman of elegance and not anything else.


Devri~~ I am sorry. I have sent you an email and I know it may come across as mean, but I want us to talk and fix things. Because I didn’t mean anything mean by my review of your blog. The crazy thing about blogging, emailing, texting… whatever form of communicating is used if it is not face to face you can’t really tell how the other person is trying to come across. I think that is what happened with my review… and I am sure as hell hoping that is what happened with your comment. I wrote you in the email about that. But it’s personal between you and me.


It breaks my heart that you deleted your blog. It broke my heart when people started saying mean things in my comments to keep me blogging. That has never been what blogging is about to me. That was why I turned off the comments. I don’t want people to be mean to you. I didn’t expect that or ask for that. And because that happened I am very sorry.


I am hoping you still have your blog out there and that you just changed the address and pulled one over on us. You had a lot of followers and more important a lot of good memories with your girls. If you have it out there please let us know. Also if you really did delete it will you please start back up a new blog. I have no problem starting a petition for your return.


Also to the other hair bloggers out there--- Don’t quit. Don’t let the drama that happened with the hair police situation stop anyone. It’s cool! We are all good here. The hair hair blogger (where ever she is) never intended her blog to seem in any way like it was going to be mean. When I first came across the site I took it that she was going to sum things up from her perspective. I think a few of us hadn’t seen a new hair blog pop up in a few days (ha ha) and we found this one funny. Me especially, I am so guilty of bringing down the heat from this drama. And it wasn’t like that guys. She wasn’t holding any kind of competition for best or worst. I really believe she was just hair blogging about Hair Blogs. I don’t know for sure she was ran out of town before we could find out… but I bet she was going to post a few of her own and be just like you and I. Blogging about hair and having fun with her talents.


Okay--- Lets ALL stop feeling sorry for ourselves. Lets do what we like to do and share fun idea’s about hair. And more important lets make memories with our daughters. Every single beautiful perfect one out there. I think that is why our genre of blogging is so popular. It is a creative way to build a stronger relationship with our daughters. And don’t worry if you have one follower or one hundred followers. Aren’t you having a good time doing this? Isn’t it fun to put your daughter on the computer and show her to herself. And ((**TIP)) the more you do it don’t you find that your daughter will sit still for a long time while you experiment on her hair because she has that end results to look forward too.


One more thing--- I don’t care if you steal my hair do’s and call them your own. I get a little bothered when it is obvious, but it’s cool with me. Because I was always REALLY good at math, I am serious and totally not being sarcastic on this one. After the teachers would get done with there explanation I always got bombarded by classmates for “MY” explanation. For a lot of students I just made more sense. But for another half they thought I was an oaf because my explanations made no sense what-so-ever. It is a good thing we have so many of us around for all the different ways of learning. A few days ago I posted a video way of TUT(ing) and people responded negative. They totally have hated it for the most part. So if someone else would like to take on re explaining it I think that would help a lot of confused people. Just kidding I am going to redo it, but guys for reals lets try and give credit where it is do, lets not allow ourselves to feel offended when we don’t get that acknowledgement.


Another idea popped in my mind. I don’t know if I am entitled to making new rules. I don’t actually know if there are rules anywhere to this blogging thing, but “NEW RULE” If you are out of idea’s, or if you have hit a creative rut… go ahead and feature each others hair do’s while you work your way out of the rut.


Comments are now open again. My friend schooled me on blocking people I don’t want to be able to comment, so lets not make this get to that point okay.

28 comments:

  1. One word - YAY! I have been thinking about you alot today and couldn't be more thrilled to log in and see you BACK! Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay Yay
    Cree

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  2. Hi there, I am completely oblivious to all the goings on of the hair blog drama, I don't know what was said or who or why. I just want you to know that I love your blog. You have a love for your daughter and doing hair. I share that love. I love to sit down and talk to her while I am playing with her hair. We have the best conversations and I think that is what makes it so much fun. You have really given me great ideas that have lead to the building of my little girls self confidence. She always calls your hair styles princess hair because she feels like a princess when we do them. And everyone tells her how beautiful she is. Wow that is amazing to her. So leave all the bad behind and know you bring a lot of good into my life. Silly as it may seem. You are awesome. :)

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  3. I've been following yours and many other hair blogs for awhile. I don't have any children, but will soon! I love hair and hope to have a little girl that I can do fun hair styles. I have really enjoyed your blog and the cute pictures of your little girl... you have wonderful ideas!

    I am grateful that you didn't quit and that you were woman enough to say I'm sorry. It's hard to say, but I'm so glad you did. I hope Devri will continue blogging, because I really liked her site too... I love the beauty of Polynesian children. Thank-you so much for taking the time to try to fix this and make amends. I think it will make the hair blogging world a much better place for everyone! :) Take care, and keep up the blogging!!

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  5. Yay!! You just made my day!!! You are the best and please thank your husband for "yelling" at you and getting you to blog again. A HUGE THANKS!!!

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  6. I'm very glad you reconsidered quitting your blog. I know first hand that sometimes electronic communication can sometimes be misconstrued. I think you're being very big in this situation. I'm also glad that you've remembered that blogging is supposed to be FUN! As long as proper etiquette and manners are remembered, blogging should simply be a fun way to share ideas and get to know others with similar interests!

    Glad to see you're back, and I hope to see you around for a long time to come!

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  7. I am so glad you are keeping your blog. I was worried that I would have to print it all out. Yet, I was thinking that you might reconsider. I don't know you well, but I could tell from your personality that you would find a way to fix this. Good job. I completely agree that it is just too hard to get the right tone when we are communicating through the computer. I think that you have handled everything well and I am happy that you didn't let pride stop you from bloggin.

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  8. Jenn, I am SO glad that you are reconsidering. Your posts from the other day just came as such a shock to me, and I figured it would only be a matter of time for everyone to cool down and see things in a different light. I am glad that you have. About the hair police-I didn't comment on that, but I didn't like what her hair blog was about. I feel bad if she got run off by the comments, but some of what she was proprosing to do I thought was going to be nothing but trouble. Anyways, I am glad that you are sticking around!

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  9. I'm just going to quote Cree on this. I feel the exact same way! Sorry about all the emails. I was one of the hundreds who had to bombard you with one. I just couldn't watch you quit and not say SoMething. I'm so glad you are trying to fix this!

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  10. This is bitter-sweet for me. I'm glad you are keeping your blog going, it is one of the better blogs. However, I still wish you'd do a blog the underground idea I commented with yesterday.

    I'll stop posting now and go back to lurking.

    Mike

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  11. I saw this whole thing unfold, but I chose to stay out of this.

    I didn't see this "devri's comment turn into a whole 2 post day, from an outsiders view, I was shocked,
    definatly too much drama for me,

    I was not ever coming back, but now that you have said you were sorry, I will be back, I love your do's, and you have a cute little girl..

    And Yes, I think we should all tell her to come back too, I went to go on it today and I couldn't believe it was gone... sooo sad.

    have a good one.

    Yay for you and me.

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  12. Hey Girl ... you know how I feel. I'm so glad. You made the right choice & I hope things between everyone in this little world we're in improves. I agree with what everyone else has said. Woohoo.

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  13. Well said, Jenn. I thought it was all a little silly in the first place. This is what it is all about...sharing hair, GIVING out ideas, and then allowing others to share! I'm totally into tap dance, and I love the movie Tap....there is an older tap dancer on the show who walks around telling everyone, "Hey, you stole my step." Well, everyone knows that there is very little to call your own in the tap world, and this all completely reminded me of this movie! Tap is great, Hair is great! And I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your cute little girl and all of the wonderful hairstyles you share with us all! Thank you for making the right choice! :)

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  14. ♥ I'm glad you're sticking around. Give your husband a big hug from all of us in the bloggy world! :)

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  15. I just want to be one of the HUNDREDS who say THANK YOU! I didn't see the drama, or know whats going on but all I can say is my girls have never been cuter thanks to your ideas and explanations. You were meant to do this blog so I hope you know you inspire so many other moms! THANKS

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  16. YAH!!!! I was hoping I would check out the blogs today and everything would have been a big ol nightmare I woke up from!!!! Close enough!!!! Welcome back(sorta)!!! And by the way, speaking for myself....I don't mind repeat styles or copy's....maybe we missed it the first go round, and they're like snowflakes...no two are identical. But definetly give credit where credit is do!!!! It's hair, people....little girls hair. Let's stop competing and have fun...there's room on our computers for all of you!!!! So, glad your stickin' with us!!!!! And me myself have a "don't like,don't look policy" I check out a blog a couple times, if it doesn't apply to my tastes or needs I don't go back...no nasty comments, no complaints, nothin'. Everything can't be for everybody!! Now, let's get stylin'!!!!

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  17. I am so happy, la la la laaa! (me singing) I just couldn't wait to get to the computer this morning and check the status of everyone. I am so glad that hubby of yours made you "see the light." It's amazing, isn't it, how wrapped up in things we can get. But, like you said, when you step back and look at it, it all seems a little over the top. Anyway, I love love love your ideas and get so many complements because of them! It's because of you that (and a few select others) that I decided it would be fun to start up my own hair blog. My gilrs love it! And, for me, that's what it's all about! Okay, anyone read for the Hokey Pokey? Welcome back!

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  18. I love your blog, your hair is the cutest and I try my darnedest to copy your hair dos on my girls. If I ever get close everyone says how cute my girls look, Thank you for sharing your craft.

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  19. I thank you and my little girl's hair thanks you!

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  20. I'm so glad you've decided to stay. I was so so so sad last night when I read you were quitting. My little girl's hair is almost just like your little girl's and it has been refreshing and empowering to find ways to do her fine hair that are cute and (occasionally) stay in all day.

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  21. Wow. I was so disappointed in how you flames Devri in a public forum like this and I was never coming back. You have now redeemed yourself and I feel like it was very sincere. Thank you for becoming a woman of elegance and putting this all to rest. And thanks for writing your actual your letter to her in private because that's where it belongs. I applaud you and I'm glad you've reconsidered.

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  22. AGREED! Thank you for coming back and for asking everyone else to follow suit. I for one, NEEED you guys. ALL of you. Everyone has something to add and it helps me with my own daughter to try different things. Let's put all of this behind us and get back to the creative hair ideas. Love you all!

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  23. hip hip horray!!! I am glad you are staying. Here is looking forward to a lot more really CUTE hair styles!!

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  24. Ditto what trish said :) I love you Jenn and I love that you are still going to share your amazing talent with us!! (Sorry I bucked the system by commenting on facebook :P)

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  25. Wow. I totally missed all the drama somehow. So I am a bit out of the loop. Anyways, it looks like things are under control now and I'm glad. And I know a million other people have already said thanks, but I want to add my thanks. My little girl would still just have two pigtails all the time if I didn't get ideas from your blog. BTW, I am going to email you some of the hairdos we've figured out!

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  26. You are so awesome Jenn!! It takes a lot of guts to apologize (thought I am still in the dark about what happened, which isn't a bad thing though) and to do it publicly. You are a strong women to take the criticism and emails that you did, then pick yourself up, brush off the dirt and be EVEN MORE AWESOME!!! Thank you for staying here, and I am excited for you contest. My daughter will get a kick out of it!!

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